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www.independentmidwives.org.uk Infertility Network U.K.

01424 732361.

www.child.org.uk Support for those experiencing fertility problems or undergoing treatment.

Meet-a-Mum a.s.sociation (MAMA) Helpline 01525 217064 www.mama.org.uk Provides advice and support to new mothers. Network of support groups around the country.

Miscarriage a.s.sociation Helpline 01924 200799 www.the-ma.org.uk National ChildbirthTrust Helpline 0870 444 8707 Breast-feeding helpline 0870 444 8708 www.nct-online.org The NCT provides a wide range of services to families including parenting cla.s.ses, post-natal support groups and a range of local events.

NHS Direct 0845 46 47.

www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk For information or non-urgent queries about your health or your baby's health.

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NHS Pregnancy Smoking Helpline 0800 169 0 169.

www.givingupsmoking.co.uk No Panic Free phone 0808 808 0545 www.nopanic.org.uk Information, telephone support and local groups for anxiety problems.

Relate For telephone enquiries, see a local telephone directory for a local contact number.

www.relate.org.uk Relate offer counselling for relations.h.i.+p problems and s.e.xual problems.

SANDS (Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Society) Helpline 020 7436 5881 or 7940 www.uk-sands.org Support for parents and families whose baby is stillborn or dies shortly after birth.

Serene (formerly Cry-sis) Helpline 020 7404 5011 BM Serene Crysis. London.WC1N 3XX Helpline for parents whose children cry a great deal.

The Society of Homeopaths 01604 621400.

www.homeopathy-soh.org Twins and Multiple Birth a.s.sociation (TAMBA) 0870 770 3305 www.tamba.org.uk Designing diaries: Anxiety, depression, drinking When you want to change something in your life such as the amount of alcohol you are drinking or if you want to monitor your experience of depression, then it can be useful to keep a 'diary'. The examples below show you how you might record this information. You really can do this any way that you find helpful.You might just want to write down a record of your day but it can be useful to divide up your page into columns and record the same information every time you feel anxious or every time you have a drink.

Drinking diary Where you were Reason for drinking Alternative action Just got home Felt stressed, fed up, Could have had a bath, could from work row with colleague Sarah have phoned Sarah Friend's house Long evening, Should have left, tried for dinner felt nervous to talk to someone 186.

Designing diaries Diary to record anxiety or panic attacks What was How did you feel?

What did you do next?

happening?

Going into Started to sweat, heart racing, Couldn't go in so drove to local shopping centre felt sick shop Diary to record negative thoughts Triggering event/ How were you feeling?

Negative thoughts situation Baby crying Felt anxious that she might I can't phone the doctor again be ill, also tired and fed up or they'll think I'm completely useless as a mother Bought new dress Depressed Think I look fat, sure they and showed to are laughing at me friends References References Belsky, J. (2001) Emanuel Miller Lecture: developmental risks (still) a.s.sociated with early childcare. Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, 42, 845^59.

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