Advice to a Mother on the Management of Her Children Part 6

I would apply no external application to cure it, as I should look upon it as an effort of the const.i.tution to relieve itself, and should expect, if the "breaking-out" were repelled, that either convulsions, or bronchitis, or inflammation of the lungs, or water on the brain, would be the consequence. The only plan I should adopt would be, to be more careful in his diet, to give him less meat (if he be old enough to eat animal food), and to give him, once or twice a week, a few doses of mild aperient medicine, and, if the irritation from the "breaking-out" be great, to bathe it, occasionally, either with a little warm milk and water, or with rose water.

EXERCISE.

74. _Do you recommend exercise in the open air for a baby? and if so, how soon after birth_?

I am a great advocate for his having exercise in the open air. "The infant in arms makes known its desire for fresh air, by restlessness, it cries, for it cannot speak its wants, is taken abroad and is quiet."

The age at which he ought to commence taking exercise will, of course, depend upon the season and upon the weather. If it be summer, and the weather be fine, he should he carried in the open air, a week or a fortnight after birth, but if it be winter, he ought not on any account to be taken out under the month, and not even then, unless the weather be mild for the season, and it be the middle of the day. At the end of two months he should breathe the open air more frequently. And after the expiration of three months, he ought to be carried out _every day_, even if it be wet under foot, provided it be fine above, and the wind be neither in an easterly nor in a north-easterly direction. By doing so we shall make him strong and hearty, and give the skin that mottled appearance which is so characteristic of health. He must, of course, be well clothed.

I cannot help expressing my disapprobation of the practice of smothering up an infant's face with a handkerchief, with a veil or with any other covering, when he is taken out into the air. If his face be so m.u.f.fled up, he may as well remain at home, as under such circ.u.mstances, it is impossible for him to receive any benefit from the invigorating effects of the fresh air.

75. _Can you devise any method to induce a babe himself to take exercise_?

He must be encouraged to use muscular exertion, and, for this purpose, he ought to be frequently laid either upon a rug, or carpet, or the floor. He will then stretch his limbs and kick about with perfect glee. It is a pretty sight, to see a little fellow kicking and sprawling on the floor. He crows with delight and thoroughly enjoys himself. It strengthens his back, it enables him to stretch his limbs, and to use his muscles, and is one of the best kinds of exercise a very young child can take. While going through his performances his diaper, if he wear one, should be unfastened, in order that he might go through his exercises untrammelled. By adopting the above plan, the babe quietly enjoys himself--his brain is not over excited by it; this is an important consideration, for both mothers and nurses are apt to rouse, and excite very young children to their manifest detriment. A babe requires rest, and not excitement. How wrong it is, then, for either a mother or a nurse to be exciting and rousing a new born babe. It is most injurious and weakening to his brain. In the early period of his existence his time ought to be almost entirely spent in sleeping and in sucking!

76. _Do you approve of tossing an infant much about_?

I have seen, a child tossed nearly to the ceiling! Can anything be more cruel or absurd! Violent tossing of a young babe ought never to be allowed, it only frightens him, and has been known to bring on convulsions. He should be gently moved up and down (not tossed), such exercises causes a proper circulation of the blood, promotes digestion, and soothes to sleep. He must always be kept quiet immediately after taking the breast, if he be tossed _directly_ afterwards, it interferes with his digestion, and is likely to produce sickness.

SLEEP

77. _Ought the infant's sleeping apartment to be kept warm_?

The lying-in room is generally kept too warm, its heat being, in many instances, more that of an oven than of a room. Such a place is most unhealthy, and is fraught with danger both to the mother and the baby. We are not, of course, to run into an opposite extreme, but are to keep the chamber at a moderate and comfortable temperature. The door ought occasionally to be left ajar, in order the more effectually to change the air and thus to make it more pure and sweet.

A new born babe, then, ought to be kept comfortably warm, but not very warm. It is folly in the extreme to attempt to harden a very young child either by allowing him, in the winter time, to be in a bedroom without a fire, or by dipping him in _cold_ water, or by keeping him with scant clothing on his bed. The temperature of a bedroom, in the winter time, should be, as nearly as possible, at 60 deg. Fahr. Although the room should be comfortably warm, it ought from time to time to be properly ventilated. An unventilated room soon becomes foul, and, therefore, unhealthy. How many in this world, both children and adults, are "poisoned with their own breaths!"

An infant should not be allowed to look at the glare either of a fire or of a lighted candle, as the glare tends to weaken the sight, and sometimes brings on an inflammation of the eyes. In speaking to, and in noticing a baby, you ought always to stand _before_, and not _behind_ him, or it might make him squint.

78. _Ought a babe to lie alone from the first_?

Certainly not: at first--say, for the first few months--he requires the warmth of another person's body, especially in the winter; but care must be taken not to overlay him, as many infants, from carelessness in this particular, have lost their lives. After the first few months he had better lie alone, on a horse-hair mattress.

79. _Do you approve of rocking an infant to sleep_?

I do not. If the rules of health be observed, he will sleep both soundly and sweetly without rocking; if they be not, the rocking might cause him to fall into a feverish, disturbed slumber, but not into a refres.h.i.+ng, calm sleep. Besides, if you once take to that habit, he will not go to sleep without it.

80. _Then don't you approve of a rocking-chair, and of rockers to the cradle_?

Certainly not: a rocking-chair, or rockers to the cradle, may be useful to a lazy nurse or mother, and may induce a child to sleep, but that restlessly, when he does not need sleep, or when he is wet and uncomfortable, and requires "changing;" but will not cause him to have that sweet and gentle and exquisite slumber so characteristic of a baby who has no artificial appliances to make him sleep. No! rockers are perfectly unnecessary, and the sooner they are banished the nursery the better will it be for the infant community. I do not know a more wearisome and monotonous sound than the everlasting rockings to and fro in some nurseries, they are often accompanied by a dolorous lullaby from the nurse, which adds much to the misery and depressing influence of the performance.

81. _While the infant is asleep, do you advise the head of the crib to be covered with a handkerchief, to shade his eyes from the light, and, if it be summer time, to keep off the flies_?

If the head of the crib be covered, the babe cannot breathe freely, the air within the crib becomes contaminated, and thus the lungs cannot properly perform their functions. If his sleep is to be refres.h.i.+ng, he must breathe pure air. I do not even approve of a head to a crib. A child is frequently allowed to sleep on a bed with the curtains drawn completely close, as though it were dangerous for a breath of air to blow upon him [Footnote: I have somewhere read that if a cage containing a canary, be suspended at night within a bed where a person is sleeping, and the curtains be drawn closely around, that the bird will, in the morning, in all probability, be found dead!] This practice is most injurious. An infant must have the full benefit of the air of the room, indeed, the bed room door ought to be frequently left ajar, so that the air of the apartment may be changed, taking care, of course, not to expose him to a draught. If the flies, while he is asleep, annoy him, let a net veil be thrown over his face, as he can readily breathe through net, but not through a handkerchief.

82. _Have you any suggestions to offer as to the way a babe should be dressed when he is put down to sleep_?

Whenever he be put down to sleep, be more than usually particular that his dress be loose in every part, be careful that there be neither strings nor bands, to cramp him. Let him, then, during repose, be more than ordinarily free and unrestrained--

"If, whilst in cradled rest your infant sleeps.

Your watchful eyes unceasing vigil keeps Lest cramping bonds his pliant limbs constrain, And cause defects that manhood may retain."

83. _Is it a good sign for a young child to sleep much_?

A babe who sleeps a great deal thrives much more than one who does not. I have known many children, who were born [Footnote: It may be interesting to a mother to know the average weight of new born infants. There is a paper on the subject in the _Medical Circular_ (April 10, 1861) and which has been abridged in _Braithwaite's Retrospect of Medicine_ (July and December 1861). The following are extracts--"Dr. E. von Siebold presents a table of the weights of 3000 infants (1586 male and 1414 female) weighed immediately after birth. From this table (for which we have not s.p.a.ce) it results that by far the greater number of the children, 2215 weighed between 6 and 8 lbs. From 5 3/4 to 6 lbs. the number rose from 99 to 268, and from 8 to 8 1/4 lbs. they fell from 226 to 67, and never rose again at any weight to 100. From 8 3/4 to 9 1/2 lbs. they sank from 61 to 8, rising however at 9 1/2 lbs. to 21. Only six weighed 10 lbs., one 10 3/4 lbs. and two 11 lbs. The author has never but once met with a child weighing 11 lbs. The most frequent weight in the 3000 was 7 lbs, numbering 426. It is a remarkable fact, that until the weight of 7 lbs the female infants exceeded the males in number, the latter thenceforward predominating.

From these statements, and those of various other authors here quoted, the conclusion may be drawn that the normal weight of a mature new born infant is not less than six nor more than 8 lbs., the average weight being 6 1/2 or 7 lbs., the smaller number referring to female and the higher to male infants."] small and delicate, but who slept the greatest part of their time, become strong and healthy. On the other hand, I have known those who were born large and strong, yet who slept but little, become weak and unhealthy.

The common practice of a nurse allowing a baby to sleep upon her lap is a bad one, and ought never to be countenanced. He sleeps cooler, more comfortably, and soundly in his crib.

The younger an infant is the more he generally sleeps, so that during the early months he is seldom awake, and then only to take the breast.

84. _How is it that much sleep causes a young child to thrive so well_?

If there be pain in any part of the body, or if any of the functions be not properly performed, he sleeps but little. On the contrary, if there be exemption from pain, and if there be a due performance of all the functions, he sleeps a great deal, and thus the body becomes refreshed and invigorated.

85. _As much sleep is of such advantage, if an infant sleep but little, would you advise composing medicine to be given to him_?

Certainly not. The practice of giving composing medicine to a young child cannot he too strongly reprobated. If he does not sleep enough, the mother ought to ascertain if the bowels be in a proper state, whether they be sufficiently opened, that the motions be of a good colour--namely, a bright yellow, inclining to orange colour--and free from slime or from bad smell. An occasional dose of rhubarb and magnesia is frequently the best composing medicine he can take.

86. _We often hear of coroner's inquests upon infants who have been found dead in bed--accidentally overlaid what is usually the cause_?

Suffocation, produced either by ignorance, or by carelessness. From _ignorance_ in mothers, in their not knowing the common laws of life, and the vital importance of free and unrestricted respiration, not only when babies are up and about, but when they are in bed and asleep. From _carelessness_, in their allowing young and thoughtless servants to have the charge of infants at night, more especially as young girls are usually heavy sleepers, and are thus too much overpowered with sleep to attend to their necessary duties.

A foolish mother sometimes goes to sleep while allowing her child to continue sucking. The unconscious babe, after a tune, looses the nipple, and buries his head in the bed-clothes. She awakes in the morning, finding, to her horror, a corpse by her side, with his nose flattened, and a frothy fluid, tinged with, blood, exuding from his lips. A mother ought, therefore, never to go to sleep until her child have finished sucking.

_The following are a few rules to prevent an infant from being accidentally overlaid_--(1.) Let your baby while asleep have plenty of room in the bed. (2.) Do not allow him to be too near to you; or if he he unavoidably near you (from the small size of the bed), let his face be turned to the opposite side. (3.) Let him lie fairly either on his side, or on his back. (4.) Be careful to ascertain that his mouth be not covered with the bed-clothes; and, (5.) Do not smother his face with clothes, as a plentiful supply of pure air is as necessary when he is awake, or even more so, than when he is asleep. (6.) Never let him lie low in the bed. (7.) Let there be _no_ pillow near the one his head is resting on, lest he roll to it, and thus bury his head in it Remember, a young child has neither the strength nor the sense to get out of danger; and, if he unfortunately either turn on his face, or bury his head in a pillow that is near, the chances are that he will be suffocated, more especially as these accidents usually occur at night, when the mother, or the nurse, is fast asleep. (8.) Never intrust him at night to a young and thoughtless servant.

THE BLADDER AND THE BOWELS OF AN INFANT.

87. _Have you any hints to offer respecting the bowels and the bladder of an infant during the first three months of his existence_?

A mother ought daily to satisfy herself as to the state of the bladder and the bowels of her child. She herself should inspect the motions, and see that they are of a proper colour (bright-yellow, inclining to orange), and consistence (that of thick gruel), that they are neither slimy, nor curdled, nor green; if they should be either the one or the other, it is a proof that she herself has, in all probability, been imprudent in her diet, and that it will be necessary for the future that she be more careful both in what she eats and in what she drinks.

She ought, moreover, to satisfy herself that the urine does not smell strongly, that it does not stain the diapers, and that he makes a sufficient quant.i.ty.

A frequent cause of a child crying is, he is wet, and uncomfortable, and wants drying and changing, and the only way he has of informing his mother of the fact is by crying l.u.s.tily, and thus telling her in most expressive language of her thoughtlessness and carelessness.

88. _How soon may an infant dispense with diapers_?

A babe of three months and upwards, ought to be held out, at least, a dozen times during the twenty-four hours; if such a plan were adopted, diapers might at the end of three months be dispensed with--a great _desideratum_-and he would be inducted into clean habits--a blessing to himself, and a comfort to all around, and a great saving of dresses and of furniture. "Teach your children to be clean. A dirty child is the mother's disgrace," [Footnote: Hints on Household Management, By Mrs C. L. Balfour.] Truer words were never written,--A DIRTY CHILD IS THE MOTHER'S DISGRACE.

AILMENTS, DISEASE, ETC.

89. _A new born babe frequently has a collection of mucus in the air pa.s.sages, causing him to wheeze: is it a dangerous symptom_?